Pride vs Shame

Pride vs Shame

Is it all really about pride? Pride vs shame is a complicated question that, frankly is quite simple. I am frequently challenged to explain the difference between pride and shame; usually from people with some or extensive experience in Christianity. After eons of...
Shame, Psychology and Corporate America

Shame, Psychology and Corporate America

This picture of corporate America looks idyllic. More women than men. Mixed racially. A wide variety of ages. Everyone smiling as if they all like each other. It’s a stage being set that rarely, if ever, exists. Certainly no meeting I’ve ever been in meets the top...
Trophy Hunting: A Shame Response

Trophy Hunting: A Shame Response

I am a trophy hunter – not with a gun – but I love a good trophy and I tend to hunt for them. That desire is key for thriving in corporate America – you got to love getting the big win and the big award recognizing your greatness. Trophies have a lot of forms. Sports...
What Would Jesus BE?

What Would Jesus BE?

To be nobody-but-yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody but yourself- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight – and never stop fighting. —e. e. cummings (1955) In the 1990’s – as I was making a...
Mistakes and Apologies

Mistakes and Apologies

Mistakes are what make us human and apologies are what help us survive our humanity. — Rick Patterson, Shame Unmasked This quote comes from the first story in the first chapter of my book and emphasizes what I believe is the most important aspect of being human...
The Truth About Farming

The Truth About Farming

I raise beef cattle.  I run about 30-50 head depending on the time of year but try and keep my momma cow population at the 20-25 level.  A lot of people envy my situation – the land and the rather romantic idea of working the land compared to the everyday grind.  I...