Shame and Suicide Prevention

Shame and Suicide Prevention

Suicide: the Hidden Time Bomb I just went to a funeral for a young man who had just graduated college and was preparing to begin his adult life. He committed suicide. Like with many suicides, his family and friends were left uttering the words “we had no idea”. What...
The COVID-19 Legacy? Hate and Division

The COVID-19 Legacy? Hate and Division

A Physical Ailment Mutates to an Emotional Ailment In 2020 this nation and the world came under attack from a virus – a type of coronavirus to be precise. This virus has caused the death of millions globally and will probably go down as one of the deadliest in...
Shame vs Embarrassment

Shame vs Embarrassment

Shame and embarrassment get confused quite often though there’s been a lot written about the similarities and differences. This is to shame’s benefit. The insidious and toxic ability of shame is never more present than in its ability to disguise itself as...
Apology accepted (you idiot).

Apology accepted (you idiot).

Apologizing is key to defeating shame. The apology is a powerful tool in the arsenal in the war against shame. In fact, apologizing defeats shame. If you’ve followed my work, you know I call the apology the nuclear option in the war against shame. However, accepting...
Feelings hurt? Shame to the rescue!

Feelings hurt? Shame to the rescue!

Shame seems like it’s your ally – when your feelings are hurt, it will come to your rescue Shame’s primary goal is to “protect” you from getting your feelings hurt. As soon as your feelings are hurt, shame will come to the rescue to offer...
Narcissism: The Need to Make Things Great

Narcissism: The Need to Make Things Great

The main driver in narcissism is to be known as being great. That’s it. You don’t actually even have to be great as long as you are known for being great all will be well. The need is a force that’s almost uncontrollable. Birth of narcissism and the need for...